Successful kids have often been given the right motivation..........and let them hear you talk positively about them to other adults.

To foster initiative in your children, let them make choices ...

Successful kids have often been given the right motivation they need. Here are ways you can foster initiative in your child. Let them make choices. At age three, Jill begged her parents to let her study piano. By five, she wanted to join the soccer team. As a young teenager, she volunteered at a camp, and in secondary school, she helped renovate an inner-city neighborhood, a project that later won her a university scholarship. Now 20, Jill is a student, a counselor at a local secondary school and a budding sky diver. "My parents always taught my brother and me to make rational decisions. They trust our judgment and don't pressure us to do things their way," said Jill. Show your children how to make sensible choices, then trust their judgment. We have had to suppress our doubts a few times, but as long as it's legal and not life-threatening, we try not to interfere. If you want kids to believe in themselves and have the courage to act, you must first demonstrate that you believe in them. Give encouragement, not things. we want our kids to have more than we did, but just handing it to them might backfire. A friend of mine was the first in the family to graduate from university. He worked hard to build his architectural practice, and his two kids had everything – money, cars, credit cards – except ambition. When they completed secondary school, neither had any idea what to do, so they did nothing. The fire that had burnt in my friend was never kindled in his children. Give the children the opportunity to succeed. Then encourage and praise their effort. Keep simple games and toys around, so they can enjoy easy victories whenever they choose. Allow them to beat you in a game from time to time, and let them hear you talk positively about them to other adults.

Summary: To foster initiative in your children, let them make choices. Teach them to make rational decisions without any pressure and trust their judgment. show them how to make sensible choices and demonstrate that you believe in them so that they have the courage to act. Give your children encouragement, not material things which may make them satisfied and not willing to work harder. Furthermore, give your children the opportunity to succeed by showering them with praises for their effort and letting them hear you talk positively about them to other adults. Play simple games with them and allow them to have victories over you now and then.